Reality is people don’t want to know how you feel. When they ask you to express your feelings, they don’t mean your actual feelings. They mean the feelings that they want you to have, people can’t deal with sad, dark, scary, or weird. People just want you to smile back and say, “Yeah I’m fine thanks, everything’s great”. Then they can go on with their lives and probably never think about you again.
Happiness is something we all wish to pursue and therefore, we reject sadness. I think today we live in a world where society expects us to be happy. Today we live in a culture where you are not allowed to be sad, we see sadness as something you are not allowed to feel unless you are clinically diagnosed. People see it as a sign of weakness and I guess weakness is not cool.
Happiness is something we all wish for. Psychology says, happiness is an emotional or mental state, which can be defined as positive or pleasant emotions which range from contentment to intense joy. That’s the state of mind we wish to live by.
“The word ‘happiness’ would lose it’s meaning if it were not balanced by sadness”- Carl Jung
Sadness, on the other hand, is associated with dark, depressed, and miserable which we all quickly run away from. Sadness is something each one of us experiences now and again. And sometimes maybe it’s okay to sad. Why do we tell ourselves that showing our sadness is a sign of weakness? We learn so much from our sadness, our dark days, our grief and even from our failures and I think these should be embraced just as much as our happiness and successes.
Sadness exists! Being sad allows us to show our humanity, it shows us and others that no matter how strong we pretend to be, we are only just human. Sadness reminds us how much we all need each other. Sadness teaches us a lot about ourselves and most importantly I think our sadness teaches us the important lesson of being honest about our feelings with ourselves. So, lets embrace it.
“Life is full of highs and lows. Being sad is part of the journey”.
Love Mariam x