Comparing ourselves to everyone else’s highlights.


It’s probably the first thing we all do when we wake up in the morning, and the last thing we do before we go to sleep at night. We pick up our phones, scroll through Twitter, check our notifications on Facebook, scroll through our Instagram feeds and look through our Snapchat stories.

It’s just become a part of our daily routines, there’s no denying that.

The sole purpose of social media is to allow us to connect, share and exchange information with friends, colleagues, acquaintances and even strangers online. Social media is like a parallel universe. It’s a place for individuals of all ages to escape reality and create a world of their own. A world that they think is perfect. Social media is a place for people to broadcast their life to thousands, in fact, millions of people across the world.

“The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.” – Steve Furtick.

Everyone that I have on social media seems to be getting engaged, getting married, are pregnant, having babies, travelling the world, going to the gym everyday, landing their dreams jobs and so much more. And here I am feeling more confused about life than ever. Where the hell did I go wrong? Why does everyone seem to have their shit together except for me?

Life can suck sometimes, it can be really tough, it can be ugly and even depressing at times. But, our social media pictures won’t tell us that. These are the words that we are less likely to see as a ‘caption’ on our pictures. Yet here we are taking the same picture over and over again until we narrow it down to ‘the one’ which we can post online for the world to see how ‘happy’ we are. You see, these are only the ‘highlights’ of someones life. The part they want everyone to see. A picture only tells us a part of the story.

It’s a place where we can pretend we have our ‘shit together’.

Today, social media makes is so easy for us to compare ourselves to others. I think we need to remember that the photos people post on social media, only show us a tiny part of their life. I’m guilty of having those nights of feeling alone, sitting on my bed and scrolling through my instagram feed and seeing the pictures of the people I once knew, all happy with their lives, travelling, getting engaged, getting married and landing their dream jobs.

But, really. We don’t know how happy those people are, and we will never know the real story. We just create stories in our heads by looking at those pictures we see on social media, those pictures that are probably staged and filtered.

The next time you sit comparing your self to others social media ‘highlights’ and think everyone is doing better than you. Remember no ones life is perfect.

‘Social media is not real life.”. And I think we all know that already.

Mariam x

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