24 things I learned AT 23

Last year, right before my birthday, I wrote an article on ’23 things I learned in 23 years’. A lot happened being 23, it wasn’t the best, it was the year that I lost myself. I certainly learned a lot about myself and I sure have changed. But, here I am still trying my best and handling life with a coffee in my hand. In honour of me turning 24, here is a list of 24 things that I learned this past year being 23. 

  1. Your mental health is everything: It’s okay to have a bad day, sometimes it’s okay to be sad, It’s okay to cry and it’s even okay to not be okay. It’s okay to admit that you’re hurting, sad, broken or even confused about life. Pretending that everything is okay when it really isn’t, doesn’t solve anything. It’s okay to ask for help.    
  2. You will meet and associate with bad people: This is one of the biggest lessons that I learned this year. You will come across and work with people that will not be able to see your worth. You will come across people in your life that will make you feel like absolute shit, and that’s reality. Some people won’t care about your feelings or how they made you feel. Don’t let those people bring you down.
  3. Coffee is everything: I cannot function without coffee. Every morning it’s always a caramel latte from costa before going to work (and they know my name and order without me saying). I feel like I’ve accomplished a lifelong goal. 
  4. Running saved my life: Everyone around me thinks I’m crazy because I enjoy it so much. I love running because it’s one of the constant things in my life at the moment. Running is something that I can always count on and that itself is a small step in healing. Running is what keeps me sane. 
  5. You can’t decide if you hurt someone’s feelings: As Louis C.K said it.. “When a person tells you that you hurt them, you don’t get to decide that you didn’t”. 
  6. Know one really knows what they are doing: Does anyone really have it together? Or have we all just become so good at lying, pretending, faking and assuming that we sort of have our lives together. Fake it till you make it right?!?!
  7. I’m still obsessed with Harry Potter: Yes, I re-read all the Harry Potter books and I think my obsession has reached a whole new level.
  8. Start saving up for your future: I’ve always done this, but, recently it’s something I’ve been doing more of. It may not be a lot now, but it’s better than nothing. It will come in handy later on. 
  9. Art is necessary: Yes, whether it’s writing, drawing, painting, photography, filmmaking, baking or music. Art is so so important it plays a huge part in your life. Art allows you to express yourself and let out those emotions that you never knew that you had. 
  10. Ask for help when needed: Asking for help is not a sign of weakness. It seems to be a sign of maturity.
  11. Support your friends: Support their businesses, share, like and comment on their posts. Go out and celebrate their successes. A little support can go a very long way in someone’s life. 
  12. Books: We lose ourselves in books, we find ourselves there too. 
  13. Be kind: to yourself and others. The world is lacking kindness. The kind people are totally running this world.
  14. You don’t have to know everything: Life really is just one big learning curve. You will never know everything and you won’t always be right. 
  15. Don’t let social media fool you: No one’s life looks as cool as it does on instagram. 
  16. I’m a good storyteller: One of my favourite things to do is to read and tell stories to children and I seem to be pretty good at it.  
  17. Hugs: Because, they are so important. 
  18. Writing is a gift: It’s all about practice. Write every chance you get, for everyone or absolutely no one to read. 
  19. Love: Always chose love. No matter what happens, love always wins. 
  20. Believe in yourself: Because if you don’t who will?!
  21. Timing is truly everything: You can want something to be a certain way with everything you have, but if the timing isn’t right, it’s not going to happen. 
  22. The only thing certain in life is death: You’re going to lose people in your life and you’re going to realise that no matter how much time you spent with them or how much you appreciate them and told them, it will never seem like it was enough. 
  23. Don’t expect everything to stay the same: I hate change, I don’t deal with it very well. But, another big lesson that I learned this year is that things change, people grow up, and so should you. Accept change and learn to accept and embrace it. 
  24. Small things matter: The past year has been terrible, its been hard. But, I learned that sometimes, it doesn’t have to be about the big things. Sometimes, happiness will come in the form of a small love note in your pocket, having a lazy day with a good book and coffee by your side, or of a heartfelt “thank you”. Learn to appreciate the small things in life, because they really do make a big difference. 

As much as I hated this last year, I learned a lot and I am forever grateful for that. But, I’m looking forward to seeing what being 24 brings me. Here’s to being twenty-plus four. 

Mariam x

1 Comment

  1. Louise
    January 4, 2019 / 2:48 pm

    Lovely to read and definitely agree on some of these too x happy birthday and good luck in achieving what you want in 2019 x

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